MohanTara 0 Report post Posted April 12, 2005 (edited) It seems like the general censuses is the society has progressed n more 'open-minded'. Virginity is not longer as important as it is back then... If a poll is carried out <as it is, in this topic>, , the results would be more people would say that their partner's virginity is not important as compared 2 back then. I guess this is pretty much a very personal thing. No offense meant here, but i feel that some people might be lying 2 themselves. Again, i think most people would want 2 be the 'best' when it comes 2 making love 2 their partners. Most would want their partners 2 think that they are the 'best lover' in the world. Now, if there is no comparision, i.e. only 1 sex partner throughout a person's life, naturally, that partner would be the best. So it is much easier to be the 'best lover' with a virgin than a non-virgin. What i'm suggesting is that: yes, society has progressed n become more open-minded. Yes, virginity is not as prized today as it is back then. But, virginity might matter 2 more people contary 2 what they think. Oh yeah, i'm referring 2 an Asian society, not a western society. Edited April 12, 2005 by MohanTara Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MohanTara 0 Report post Posted April 12, 2005 (edited) I have a friend who lost her virginity b4 she met her then bf. By then she had already made a 180 degree turn away from her former wild lifestyle, that's why she had first caught his eye. He was madly in love with her when she confessed it all 2 him, n although he reacted dramatically 2 the news, he said he accepted her n still wanted 2 marry her. They r married now, but apparently it's a whole other picture. The husband is obviously still aggitated by her not being a virgin b4 marriage, he tells her regularly how marrying her was the biggest mistake of his life. Then even though she's proven herself 2 be faithful only 2 him, n dedicated wholly 2 the household (she does all the household chores, even 2 unreasonable demands by her husband - ie. he will scold her if there's even a little crease on his shirt after ironing, n cares for their baby all by herself, he's often unwilling to lift a finger), he still goes on n accuses her of sleeping with the mailman, guys in the office, cheating on him with any old joe on the street, which is ridiculous, cos she's not that person anymore. N he as her husband ought to see that!! Now he's even telling his son behind her back, that his mother is a slut. I realise then, how important virginity is 2 some men. They may deny it, n try to accept the fact of the matter that their wife had slept with some1 b4 them, but the hurt of 'betrayal' will still be churned up time n again. Perhaps he would've said the hurtful things he's saying now whether or not the problem existed in the 1st place, but people who knew him b4 he was married cannot comprehend the monster he's turned into now. A chauvinist. Edited April 12, 2005 by MohanTara Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
illusionist 0 Report post Posted April 13, 2005 i donot expect the same standards as 19th century. all i can hope for is - she hasn't slept with more than 5 guys. allright...allright , let's make it 10 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
dream_noon 0 Report post Posted April 13, 2005 ya mohantara is right with his inside story abt the topic n others too r right on their own demand coz its individual to decide what he wants haina........ for them who had the chance they r demanding their partner to be also already been ....... n other group their who wants like him his partner should be proud of so they can later proud of their of marriage n its true that its been very hard to find virgins in the streets of newwork ,in the banks of hawaai island n ... in the hifi places...but still places r there in the remote towns of our own country where they feel their society to be civlized their daughters to be ideal ones n they have the right to demand that yes they r the ppl who have not lots their culture their values n they can claim no to eastern culture......n does it sound harmoinc in the streets of ktm definitely not .....coz they r not then what should they boast abt.... n well in the middle of croud far far there u can cry that i am the modern world i am a real human n argue u dont have the right to demand.......cos time has gone n in the middle there i stay wondering..... which way to go ......wchich place to crawl in........ hahaha Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Pokhrel 0 Report post Posted April 13, 2005 Being vergin is you choice. Many people in Japan still prefer to marry virgins. It depends on what you want to do? One day a friend of mine expressed his opinion about a colleague in headscarf, "I think your parents are strict, and they don't let you go off weaving your hair" the reply was, "Yes, my parents chain me up." It was her choice. Virginity is a choice, if you want to stay virgin, what is wrong with that? Being virgin is, say for eg. a kind of treasure a woman wants to give her husband. Some very educated women also keep virginity as an eternal pride. Do men maintain virginity as women do? That is another question. Virginity has nothing to do in marriage but if some did, there is no harm. But, undoubtedly virginity should not be an issue for marriage. Deven 70153[/snapback] I am agreed with above comments too. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
linuxuser 0 Report post Posted April 13, 2005 (edited) Deven..I totally agree..V should be a gift to husband from wife and vice versa. Having said that it should not be a big issue in marriage. This world is a wack job and everyone is a wacky character anyway so who cares about Virginity. Edited April 13, 2005 by linuxuser Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites